However, more importantly, my mom's letter! I'm actually going to repost it here since the formatting on the Philadelphia Inquirer website is awful --
As a Chinese mom, I think the rigid, traditional Chinese method of parenting is outdated. It is nothing more than controlling parents demanding absolute obedience from their children and it does not encourage independent thinking.
Growing up, my daughters did what kids do. They slept over at friends' houses, played sports, and - gasp - went out on dates. Both played the piano and one received a merit scholarship from Settlement Music School. But those were their piano lessons, not mine. They practiced on their own. My daughters are Stanford and Yale graduates. I don't want to be a peacock mom so I'll just say they are both currently doing great things.
Amy Chua is wrong; children should be taught to work and play hard. Depriving children of leisure and controlling their actions is never a good parenting style. I'd like to quote what my daughter once wrote in her college essay, "Some people say their parents shaped the person they are. My parents allowed me to become the person I am."